There Are Joys That Come From Letting Go. It's Not All Pain 

Unhappiness doesn't come from life or from the experiences and situations that come our way. Unhappiness comes from the expectations, feelings and hopes we hold on to.

Pain, loss, grief, unhappiness, sadness, feeling down are all a part of human existence. They are all part of the beautiful, fragile, joyous human condition and come to all of us.

There is a need and a wisdom in accepting this and knowing that some or all of these experiences and new directions will come our way at some stage in our life journey.

Our healing, happiness and recovery depends on how well we welcome these 'difficult' times into our life. How we dwell on them, abide with them, accept them, learn from them and, most certainly, in how well we can 'let them go'. 

Loss and pain are not signs of failure, that you are not doing well or not a good person. There is no failure, just feedback and lessons learned. Lessons Learned from a lived life.

We can become unwell. Sometimes seriously. It's the natural course for living beings.
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People leave. It's not you. Even if you couldn't be what someone wanted, it's not you. People come into our life for a reason, a purpose but not always for a lifetime. Let go.

Our own minds, our thoughts, can raise us to the highest levels of creativity and deep thinking or cut us down to the lowest depths of depression or anxiety.

Left unguarded, our mind will take us to all sorts of weird and wonderful places. Some of these places can be quite dark. Anxiety is the result of a human mind out of control or losing it's grip on reality. Anxiety is worrying about imaginary future events. It is our imagination worrying about the future which, of course, hasn't happened and over which we have no control. Anxiety is an imagination veering towards unlikely and unhappy situations and upsetting scenarios. Once anxiety takes hold or becomes a habit, it is difficult to settle and bring under control. It can be done.
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The trick is to not leave the mind unguarded. Creativity and focussed intent are the enemy of anxiety. When we are armed with a plan and an intention for what we will do and where we will be going, there is little room for anxiety or catastrophising to get a look in. Don't waste your amazing human imagination on out of control, anxiety ridden thoughts that will bring you down and probably will never happen. The 'monkey mind' can be tamed and reframed and refocussed.

I believe in the beauty of human love and intimacy in all it's forms. It's what makes our lives happy, exciting and meaningful.

True human intimacy can only develop when two people have taken the baby steps needed to develop trust and a feeling of safety. It takes time and it takes a commitment from both to allow a closeness to develop and grow and emerge from within.
Making time and 'taking it slow' can be foreign concepts in our fast paced, stress filled, modern world. Time and Love are the only ways to build a true understanding of each other and, little by little, to remove some of the protective layers we wear. The real treasures within can eventually be revealed and lived.

There is magic in our hearts and the beauty in our souls. These are found deep within each person and can be buried under the doubts, fears, negative self talk and poor self image that we can all develop over time. It takes time for each of us to create personal barriers to love and intimacy and it takes time to dissolve them.

The reward for this slow paced, focussed journey inward is the ability to find our inner treasure chest of 'wonderfulness' and once opened we have untold wealth to share. Treasures are always buried and never in full view. They may be found at the end of the rainbow or the bottom of the sea or dug deep under the earth. There is always a journey, a quest, a commitment involved in unearthing treasure but wealth and riches are always the fruits from these efforts.

It's always worth the questing and the digging. Long conversations reveal, finally, the pains held deep within. Silences allow spirits to emerge and mingle and be felt and absorbed. The building of trust is the revealing of a little hurt here, a heartache there and possibly a major grief from somewhere back in time. Intimacy can only develop where there is trust and trust will only grow where our fears can dissolve. It takes time but it is beautiful and elevates human love and connection to amazing, lofty heights. Take the time and take the risk.

Dance While You Can.

Life is so short and we are dead and gone for a long time.

Some are taken from this world long before it seems fair or even possible. The hurt and rage and disbelief affecting all of us as we feel a personal grief or a broader, collective despair. Our world has seen far too much of this of late.

Some, sadly, take themselves from this world leaving us to wonder about the intense pain that could cause some beautiful human being to do away with life, love and possibilities. It can be all too much to cope with and our tears well over.

Our questions might be about how this could have happened ? Why did someone so precious have to die ?

Your Personal Rainbow is much more than the flag you wave.

Your Rainbow is the unique, beautiful, quirky and individual YOU behind the layers and labels. It is your inner core, your strength and your essence and driving force. It is the YOU of YOU and makes you a 'one of a kind' creation. 

It's so important to live your life your way. Energy, happiness, passion, confidence and a healthy self image depend on you being the individual you were meant to be and want to be. Passion filled Happiness is, in fact, an inside job. It comes from within you and colours your happiness, hopes and dreams and brightens the lives of all you touch and connect with. It is within you and within your reach. Take some time and take a good look inside. Rummage around a bit and find the good.

This isn't a issue of sexuality, personality or gender or simply choosing a camp or team or tribe to belong to. It's about being true to the whole, complex, integrated person that you are and being strong enough and aware enough and reflective enough to know yourself and be yourself.