Unhappiness doesn't come from life or from the experiences and situations that come our way. Unhappiness comes from the expectations, feelings and hopes we hold on to.
Pain, loss, grief, unhappiness, sadness, feeling down are all a part of human existence. They are all part of the beautiful, fragile, joyous human condition and come to all of us.
There is a need and a wisdom in accepting this and knowing that some or all of these experiences and new directions will come our way at some stage in our life journey.
Our healing, happiness and recovery depends on how well we welcome these 'difficult' times into our life. How we dwell on them, abide with them, accept them, learn from them and, most certainly, in how well we can 'let them go'.
Loss and pain are not signs of failure, that you are not doing well or not a good person. There is no failure, just feedback and lessons learned. Lessons Learned from a lived life.
We can become unwell. Sometimes seriously. It's the natural course for living beings.
People leave. It's not you. Even if you couldn't be what someone wanted, it's not you. People come into our life for a reason, a purpose but not always for a lifetime. Let go.
Love fades. Dreams die. People change. Excitement settles. Bodies age. Time passes. These are all part of the adventure of Life. The cycle of endings and new beginnings. Without letting go of the old and tired, there will be no room for the exciting and new.
How well can you accept challenge, change, struggle, loss and let them gently pass ?
How well can you say "I miss that person but it's time to find someone right for me"
Can you welcome great happiness and deep sadness with the same openness and energy. Can you embrace the powerful and beautiful and life changing lessons of both ?
How long will you pine and cry over someone who has left before you finally turn and look ahead to the joys and delights and adventures and beautiful people awaiting you ?
How long will you tearfully stare at the closing door on a relationship and look with longing after lost love, lost opportunity or a lost fairy tale that won't be coming true ?
You'll never notice the new door of happiness that is opening for you while you focus and stare at the one that is firmly closed, out of reach and, increasingly, in your past.
Happiness is about feeling and learning and releasing and letting go. Rebirth is key.
While you are looking 'back' at the person who has hurt you, you cannot look 'ahead' to the person who will delight you, love you, surprise you, inspire you and want you.
You cannot welcome tomorrows wonders and joys and abundance and love with wide open arms if you still have your hands chock full of yesterday's sadness and pain.
The pain does not remain acute and stifling. It fades. It transforms, in fact, to an energy that lingers gently and softly. It becomes a 'comfort' and a part of you as does wearing a ring. The memory is daily present, largely forgotten, but can trigger a timely reminder.
Forgive what's past. Forgive what was done to you. Forgive yourself for how, in your humanness, you missed the signs and clues that another person and path awaits you.
Forgiveness is not forgetting. It's remembering without the anger. Without the shame. Without the blame. Without the holding on. Without the false hope and human games.
Lift your head to the sunshine and look around. Feel the warmth and new beginnings. Slowly become aware of the kindness and beautiful humanity that surrounds you. That actually surrounded you all along while you had your head buried in pain of the past.
Notice the energy of hope and the hint of happiness in the air. The scent of joy on the breeze and the sweet aroma of new love and colourful crazy adventures that await.
Let go and look up. Dare to dream again. Dig deep for strength of your spirit that courses through your veins and pulses in your loving, giving, vibrant human heart.
Step out boldly in the direction of your dreams. You never know who you might pass on the journey, bump into on the road or passionately collide with as you travel your path.
Drop it all ! LET GO ! Look around. Be bold. Free yourself to be open to what awaits.
You deserve the joy, the happiness, the love, the hope and wonders of new beginnings.